Ten Assumptions that Kill Success
Many problems in life arise because of assumptions. Even conflicts and misunderstandings arise because of them. People often assume that those with whom they communicate may know certain concepts and ideas and proceed with that assumption to convey their points of view. This often leads to unintended consequences and even an opposite result. In the following article Jim Allen explains the importance of avoiding certain basic assumptions that may greatly hamper your ability to perform successfully, reach your goals or establish meaningful relationships with others. These assumptions are especially relevant when you are undertaking projects that require team effort. When you make decisions, its is important to ask yourself, "What are the underlying assumptions in this?" Jayaram V
Working as a professional life- and business-coach, I've discovered that people have this knack for making assumptions about their lives and their goals that are just incredibly, wildly wrong. Worse, these assumptions aren't just incorrect, they are deflating and deadly to the success people are seeking.
I've also found that when people put these assumptions aside and get focused on the truth, they begin making progress quite quickly.
Below are the top 10 assumptions I've run across. Consider this a "most-wanted" list of killer assumptions you want to avoid:
1. I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT'S GOING ON
Warning! If you find yourself saying/thinking this, it's time to stop and ask a few more questions. Invariably, the moment we think we see everything is usually when we have the smallest field of vision. Recheck your facts, get more information, and then proceed.
2. I HAVE A FOOLPROOF PLAN
No plan is foolproof. (At best, you might have a plan that is "fool resistant".) Consider as many worst-case scenarios and "what-ifs" as time will allow.
3. I DON'T NEED (or CAN'T GET) HELP
Few people in history have created success solely on their own. A second opinion, a spare set of hands, and a fresh perspective seldom go amiss... And they are all much easier to find than you think. Just check your local library, college, or telephone directory to get started.
What is an assumption?
An assumption is something that you take for granted or suppose to be true when you do not have the facts or the information to support it. It is a guess which you accept presumptuously.
4. I DON'T HAVE THE EDUCATION
It's ideas put to action that create success, not diplomas, so stop using this to delay getting started. If you absolutely must have formal "education" there are plenty of ways to get it. These other ways may not be traditional, but they can be just as effective.
5. I DON'T HAVE THE MONEY
Not having the money NOW does not mean you cannot GET the money in the future. Focus on how you can save, earn, or borrow what you need.
6. I DON'T HAVE THE TIME
Actually, you have all the time in the world. You may need to reschedule some things, change priorities, and/or stop doing other things, but you'll never have more time than you do right now.
7. I AM TOO OLD (OR NOT OLD ENOUGH)
You're only "too old" when you're dead. And if you're worried about not being "old enough," then trust me, you're old enough.
8. I AM BEING UNREALISTIC
Some of the greatest successes ever are the ones that were thought the least realistic. Dream big. Be bold. Let the critics debate whether it's realistic or not while you make it happen.
9. I DON'T DESERVE TO BE SUCCESSFUL
Really? Why not just go ahead and find out? I think you'll be pleasantly surprised to discover that you're wrong.
10. NOBODY UNDERSTANDS WHAT I AM TRYING TO DO
Maybe nobody you know now, but take a look around and you'll find a world full of wonderful people who are, each and every one of them, struggling to create success their own way.
Open up and share your dreams with them and you'll soon find more supporters than you can count!
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