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By Jayaram V This article is incomplete. To read the complete article you
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Blaming others for one reason or the other is a common act in
which most people
engage. It is an important aspect of human
relationships. The closer they get the more likely the chances
are that people blame each other even for the most trivial
reasons. A young daughter may blame her mother for spoiling her
weekend because she has asked her to stay at home and clean her
room. She will keep blaming her mentally and silently till she
gets over with it.
A grownup one may blame her parents for sending her to a
boarding school or a distant university for which they have a
special attachment. A spouse may blame the other for losing his
independence or peace of mind or credit worthiness. Children
blaming parents, parents blaming their children, bosses blaming
their team mates and team mates blaming their bosses, people
blaming their leaders and leaders blaming their predecessors or
the opposition, teachers blaming students, students blaming
teachers, neighbors blaming neighbors, these are common facts of
life, in which we not only reveal our hidden resentments but
also our proclivity to let out our fears and frustrations
through the criticism of others.
We do not spare even God from this blame game, even though we
have never seen Him directly and we are not sure what role He
actually plays in shaping our destinies or owning up our
mistakes.
It is easier to find a scapegoat or blame others, with or
without reason, but it requires a lot of courage to own one‘s
faults and accept responsibility. We all look for such people
but rarely assume that role ourselves. We are conditioned to
seek approval and we know that we have an inherent desire for
appreciation from other people. So we always strive to win the
approval of others, trying to meet their expectations, putting
on our best faces, but when things do not happen according to
our expectations, we use the same human weakness to control
others and make them feel guilty or submissive...
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