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by Stan Popovich
Sometime or another each of us will experience a time when we are
alone. Some people fear of being
alone for various reasons. The
first step is to become comfortable with yourself and having the
self confidence that you will be able to manage being alone. There
is nothing wrong with being alone. If being alone bothers you that
much, then it would help to see a counselor who can help you with
these issues.
In the meantime, here is a short list of techniques that a person
can use so that the fear of being alone doesn’t become a major
issue in their lives.
The first step is to find an activity that you enjoy and where
you can meet a lot of people. For instance, joining a group activity
such as playing volleyball, women’s club, or making crafts can be
a great way to meet people. Doing something that you like to do will
make you happy and will help you stay committed in the group which
will increase your chances of making some friends.
Spending time with animals can be a great source of
Companionship. Whether you have a dog or you go to your local
shelter, spending time with an animal or pet can get rid of your
loneliness in a big way. Animals can be of good company to all of us
whether we are alone or not.
Helping others through community service can be of some help.
There are many people out there who could benefit from your time and
talents. Helping others can give you a source of pride and
accomplishment and also can lead to friendships.
It isn’t fun being alone, but sometimes there are worse things.
For instance, imagine that you are married or stuck in a
relationship that you can’t get out of and also makes your
miserable. Not only do you have to live with this person who makes
things miserable, but there is no way to get out of the relationship
because of various financial or personal reasons. As a result, you
are stuck living with someone that you can’t stand and makes you
depressed every single day of your life. With this viewpoint, being
alone doesn’t sound that bad.
For those of you who believe in God, spending time with God and
prayer can help us in our lonely situation. Spending time with God
and asking God for help in our time of loneliness gives us the hope
that God will help us in our time of need. You never know how God
will work in ones life. Ask him for help and trust that he will help
you.
As a Layman, the important thing is to do something constructive.
Sitting around and doing nothing will not make things any better
whether its dealing with the fear of being alone or something else.
Take it one day at a time and stay committed in trying to solve your
problem. If your still having trouble, seek the help of a
professional who can provide additional insights and suggestions to
your situation.
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