By Jayaram V
Do you remember what did happen yesterday or day before
or two days before? If you are one of those who got into a rut
and living the same routine in the same manner day after day,
most likely you will not remember much of what happens to you
everyday. Many people fall into a routine life sooner of later
and lose track of the moments that make up their lives.
Routine is necessary, to some extent, because you cannot wake
up every day and begin to worry what to do next. Routine normalizes
your life and saves you from the stress of dealing with the unknown
and the uncertain. However, a routine life has its own downside.
It makes your life less adventurous, less exciting and less interesting.
Most people grow up, find a job, get married, have children and
settle down. Then somehow, somewhere, almost imperceptibly, they
fall into a dull and monotonous routine that make their lives increasingly
uninteresting and even depressing. It is important to recognize
the problem of monotony early, which is inherent in modern life,
before it becomes a problem. If you are one of them who suffers
from frequent bouts of boredom and loneliness, it is necessary to
find ways and means to deal with it.
What does routine do to you? It brings monotony, makes your life
dull and miserable, and reduces your zest for life. It also affects
your relationships, activity, thinking and outlook, besides limiting
your self-growth and professional success. Many people suffer from
depression after retirement due to sheer monotony, feeling neglected,
ignored, humiliated or helpless. Some even die, because of sheer
loneliness and depression.
Monotony reduces life into a long series of dreary and dull moments.
When people feel stuck in a rut, it drives them to desperation and
those who feel that their choices to break through that monotony
are limited feel even more depressed.
If you are suffering from monotony and leading a dull and boring
life, what are you going to do? Here are a few inexpensive, simple
and practical suggestions to deal with this problem. They do not
require major adjustments to your current plans and priorities,
career goals or general Wellbeing.
1. How can you break the monotony of life?
2. Step out of your comfort zone.
3. Think from different perspectives.
4. Cultivate some new skills.
5. Find new friends.
6. Go on vacation.
7. Reward yourself with a sumptuous dinner or a good movie.
8. Spend time with your loved ones who care for you.
9. Find a purpose that is greater than you.
10. Find a passion that gives you an opportunity to express your
talents and skills.
11. If you are leading a sedentary life, join a gym or begin
to exercise and walk.
12. If you are already fit and healthy, prepare for a marathon
or a cycling or hiking event
13. Read motivational or inspirational books.
14. Revisit some old places where you lived before.
15. Throw a party and invite your friends.
16. Join a club or a professional organization.
17. Have new goals.
18. Look for opportunities.
19. Keep trying.
20. Try a new job, if you can afford it and deal with the anxiety
21. Write a letter or send a new mail to someone you have not
spoken for long.
These suggestions are general, and all may not be suitable for
you. Pick the ones that appeal to you and practice them. You may
even devise some of your own. Use your creativity and ingenuity
to break the monotony of routine that is clogging your life and
making you a prisoner of your own habits and thinking. Someone said
that the real joy in life came from doing small things and enjoying
small pleasures. It is moments filled with little pieces of information,
which create your life and keep you moving forward. If you take
care of them, most likely you will experience fulfillment. Therefore,
do not avoid the problem and make yourself miserable. Do not indulge
in self-pity. Also, do not expect your friends and family to cure
your boredom and make you happy. By doing so, you will only push
them away and become even more lonely. Find every opportunity to
break free from the chains that keep you bound to your fears, worries
Life is unique. Life is too short. The moments that make up your
life will not happen again, except in your thoughts and memory.
Once you are gone or out of sight, no one will be there to tell
the story of your life and the moments you savored. Your life is
a precious gift given to you without your asking. It gives you a
great opportunity to realize your dreams and become whatever you
want you to be. Give it a push with enthusiasm and confidence and
see how far you can take it on the path to peace, joy, success,
and happiness. You do not have to feel helpless and lost in the
monotony of life, unless you want to wallow in self-pity and misery
and find every excuse to avoid taking control of your life. Resolve
the problem here and now, by making a strong self-commitment to
take charge of your life and break free from the habitual patterns
of your mind.
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