by Jayaram V
There is nothing personal about success or failure although
many people take
them personally. For many, failure is especially more hurtful
and even shameful. The truth is, there is really no success or
failure. There is only the right way or the wrong way of doing
things and the secret is to know it as early and as
efficiently as possible. To be successful, you need to do the right things
the right way and, sometimes, at the right time. Imagine what
happens if you drive a vehicle the wrong way. First, you will not
reach your destination. Secondly you will be delayed. Thirdly,
you will be forced to find the right way once again. Now imagine
what happens if you not only drive the wrong way but also in the
wrong direction and in the opposite lane, against incoming
traffic. This will probably cost you a lot more than you
can even imagine. You will encounter the incoming traffic every
step of the way and may end up hurt and injured. Life is similar
or perhaps even worse than the roads upon which we drive. In
life every road that you come across is just a one-way road. You
cannot reverse or turn back. If you find yourself in the wrong
direction or on a wrong lane, you have to keep moving in the same
direction for sometime before you find a safe exit and find
your direction and the correct lane once again.
Remember this. There is no failure or success on the path of
life. There is only
the right way of doing things and the wrong way of doing things.
There is only a right direction and there is a wrong direction. If
you are not successful in any venture, don't beat yourself with
negative self-talk. Don't attribute your failure to your
personal talents and skills. Accept it as doing something wrong.
Analyze what happened and try to do it the right way. See what
others have done. Know what the experts in the field have to say
about it. Read help manuals and information left by others about
their experiences. Work out
different alternatives, without losing focus on your goals. Keep
doing and keep trying till you are on the right lane. Focus on
the "how" of doing and sooner or later you will find the right
method. So, next time when depressing and deprecating thoughts
enter your mind about your effort or your failure, remember the
1. Don't blame God or your friends of family for your
failures. They are not responsible for what happens in your
2. Accept self-responsibility for the events in your life.
You make things happen through your actions and decisions.
3. Know that there is neither success nor failure. There is a
right way and wrong way and there is a right direction and a wrong
4. When things go wrong, try to find the right way and the
right direction. Gather information. Analyze what happened.
Think of alternatives and keep implementing them till you find
the right method and right direction. If you persevere you will
find the right way and the right direction.
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