Living in the Present and Enjoying Life
We hardly live in the present. What we experience in the present is almost always superimposed by the memories of our past. We cannot experience anything and make sense of it, without labeling it, categorizing it, comparing it or contrasting it. Here comes the most significant existential problem of our lives. We experience reality through our minds and our minds do not perceive reality accurately, as they are subject to many filtering and disruptive mechanisms. Our past is the filter, the accumulated knowledge, through which we experience the current reality. What we experience currently is mostly understood and interpreted in terms of what we already know or what we have already experienced. Hence it is seldom the real reality.
When we live through the windows of our past, there is hardly much scope to enjoy the spontaneity and beauty of life. Jiddu Krishnamurthy, a wise master of modern India, once said something to the effect that there was no true observation if there was an observer. It is true because when we see everything from the colored lenses of our past, there is no actual seeing, but a validation of what we have already seen. He also said that when we looked at something, we were conditioned not to see the thing itself, but invoke a copy of its image stored in our minds and treat it as real.
So, for example, when you see a rose, you actually do not see the rose, but an idea of it or an image of it that is already present in your memory. When one falls in love, one actually does not fall in love with the person, but a glossed over image of that person or an ideal image, which is why when one is in love one hardly sees any flaws in the other person. It is also why human love fades away as quickly as it is formed, once the reality settles in and both sides begin to see each other more clearly and objectively.
We are conditioned to perceive the world this way. It is our normal behavior. It is how we are created and there is little we can do about it, because we to overcome such limitations, we have to use our minds against our minds and that also within the limitations, to which they are subject.
Whatever knowledge we claim for ourselves is but an accumulated knowledge of memories and past impressions, gained through the activity of the senses, which are in themselves limited and arbitrary. While our knowledge is memory based, our experiences are repetitive and conditioned and what we know is not adequate enough to know the unknown. So, as Krishnamurthy said, as long as we are in the field of the known, or within the boundaries of our minds, and rely upon our memories, we do not see the truth or experience it accurately.
To a person familiar with the metaphysical aspects of life, this is a profound revelation. If we observe ourselves carefully to know how we live and experience the reality around us, we realize that actually most of the time we lead repetitive and monotonous lives. Every new experience we undergo is actually a different version of what we know or already experienced. We waddle through life, staying within our comfort zones, preferring to deal with what we already know or familiar with, and when we are forced to experience the unknown and unfamiliar, we suffer from fear and anxiety.
If you are familiar with the concepts of object oriented programming, you will realize that the human mind uses the same objects and a few design models all the time to interpret and classify information. It is as if we have created a framework, in which we want to fit in everything, however unrealistic and difficult it may be.
The mind is geared to perform many complex tasks and remain alert to external threats, as a part of our survival mechanism. It has to deal with a lot of raw information that keeps coming continuously through the senses and process it efficiently, without getting lost in the details. Since it is impossible to do everything in a short time, it usually employs various filtering mechanisms, generalizations and over simplifications to minimize effort and maximize efficiency and yet give us a feeling of continuity, experience and awareness.
In the course of our daily lives, we do not pay attention to many things that happen around us and when we pay attention, we do not perceive them correctly. We see the world mostly in terms of our beliefs, assumptions, previous knowledge and states of mind. So the world, which we see and which we believe to be the real world, is actually an assumptive world. We may see the same object differently at different times, depending upon what is going on through our minds. When we look at things, we do not look at them with complete attention, as if we are seeing it for the first time, as if we have never seen it, as if it is unique and independent of all that we know and experienced. Unfortunately, since we do not have enough time for such detailed and thorough observations, we make up things, fill up the blanks and mix our imagination with reality.
Thus we go through life in predictable ways, confining ourselves to the known and the familiar, losing things, the moment we perceive them and letting our past images and impressions replace them to give us the impression of reality. To focus on things, in which we are particularly interested, we allow our minds to shut down what is not necessary and what we consider to be inconsequential and irrelevant. While such selectivity helps us to resolve the problem of information overflow, it also limits our experiences, our perception of the world and our understanding of it. Unfortunately there is no way we can perceive the world and experience it differently, other than through our minds and senses, and as long as we depend upon them we are subject to their limitations and the conditioning to which they are subject.
It is not easy to go against nature and against society. For us, our minds and senses are the only means to understand and experience the bewildering nature of life. Till we find better ways of knowing and experiencing, we have to be content with our dependence upon them for our survival and continuity and build our knowledge and understanding based upon what we already know and what we already have. We have to abide by the natural laws and the laws, which we collectively enforce upon ourselves, and follow the discipline, which we believe to be the foundation of our success and happiness.
At the same time, we should sincerely try to assimilate more information, exploring the other possibilities of knowing and experiencing, to enrich our lives and expand our awareness. It may not be easy to put an end to the habitual movements of our brains or our senses, but we can make an honest attempt to live in the present and experience the world each moment as it passes by, paying attention to the things we have never cared to see before and experiencing the reality as we have never done before.
Becoming sensitive to the world that exists within you and around you is the best way to broaden your awareness and enrich your experiences. By slowing down and by just lifting our heads and looking around, we will realize how much life we are missing each day. When our eyes are truly opened to the reality around us, we will realize how we have stopped looking at people and at the things we do not really care. We will realize how we have grown impervious to the wonderful creation that exists all around us and how we have stopped expressing our gratitude for the beauty, majesty and grandeur that is present everywhere. We become aware of the love and the abundance that flows into our lives, and the many other things, which we were ignoring before.
If you feel that you have gone too far into material things and have limited your vision to few concerns, it is time you wake up your senses and enrich your life, experiencing the simple pleasures of your daily life, shifting your attention, from having to being, from feeling important to being attentive and from knowing to being receptive.
People go to faraway places to relax and enjoy their vacation. It is definitely a good way to break the monotony of your life.
But should you limit your happiness and enjoyment only to few such occasions? Should we have to spend several dreary months of intense work to enjoy just a few days of rest and relaxation? The answer is certainly no. Happiness exists not in the things, but in the seeker. A person can be happy, by just staying at home. For a trained mind, the very process of living is a great source of enjoyment. It is immaterial whether we are rich or poor. What is material is whether we know how to appreciate life as it happens to us and how we can enjoy the simple pleasures of life, by becoming sensitive to the environment in which we live.
Source: Reproduced partially from the article, "Becoming Aware of Yourself" from the book Think Success by Jayaram V. You may purchase this book from our online store
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