Five Important Lessons From Life

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by Jayaram V

Life offers you many opportunities, if you keep your mind open and sensitive, to learn from experience and analysis and adapt accordingly. Everyone goes through life and gains experience, but what sets people apart is what they make of it or learn from it and how they use it. It is your biggest natural resource, which is more important than all the wealth you have or seek. From the ocean of your experience, you can churn vast wisdom, from which you can greatly benefit.

We do not always pay attention to our own feelings and emotions or to the lessons which life intends to teach us as we fall into daily routine and become mechanical, and inattentive or indifferent. However, occasionally, truths manifest in your consciousness on their own in response to certain events and circumstances. Through conscious and deliberate effort, we can make that happen regularly and make use of the knowledge and wisdom which is hidden within ourselves.

We are the essence of the past. What happened to us or what we experience in life is the basis of what we are now, and what we can potentially achieve. Whether we notice them or not, life teaches us valuable lessons through many visible and invisible teachers. Those lessons become self-evident when we pay attention and think about them. Here is five such important lessons which life teaches us.

1. Do not expect too much from relationships

Expectations reduce joy. This is especially true in case of human relationships. Our relationships are mostly based on interest. If only one side is going to benefit from a relationship, it is not going to survive for long. Therefore, if you are looking for healthy relationships in life, see how you can be useful to others, without expectations, and be caring and compassionate.

2. Do not barter away your freedom

Freedom is precious because multiple forces want to limit it so that they can control us and exploit us. The freedom to be free and to express oneself is inherent to human nature. It is what makes us unique and lively. Therefore, respect freedom as your fundamental right without encroaching upon the freedom of other people, or giving it away to an institution, belief system or the government for  paltry material rewards.

3. Take responsibility for your life

Your life is largely controlled, shaped, influenced and directed by you only, although there may be several other forces at work against you or in your favor. Ultimately, it is your desires, expectations, beliefs, knowledge and ignorance, which largely determine the quality, nature and content of your experiences. Therefore, take pride in your achievements and responsibility for your failure, suffering and setbacks.

4. Be careful with words and choice of words

Truth is important, but if you are careless it can hurt and harm others. In relationships trust important. You cannot betray people who trust you and share secrets with you. Discretion is important. If truth is going to hurt or harm others, better be silent. Sometimes it is better not to speak anything, rather than risking a relationship or your vital interests by speaking hurtful words. The old saying that you should think before you speak, holds well in every situation. In today’s Internet world, it is even more important. Your choice of words is also important.

5. Do not take people for granted

People are unpredictable. They change and evolve with time. Our thinking, opinions, attitudes, beliefs and behavior also change as time goes by according to circumstances, needs and compulsions. Our relationships, friends and friendships, even marriages change. Countries, business and institutions also change with time. Even the strongest relationships can face rough weather. Therefore, pay attention to what others say, think and feel. Listen to their complaints, grievances and concerns, however trivial they may be. Treat them as humans rather than as files, problems, teams, numbers, ranks and designations