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by Terrie O Connell
Often life transitions start with a jolt, through an unexpected
turn of events. Recently, for many this
transition has been in the
form of a layoff, for others unfortunately it may have come with a
the death of a close friend or family member. On the other hand,
transitions can also sneak up more quietly, more like a feeling of
general discomfort, you may be thinking "is this all there
is"?
The gift this time offers you is the chance to reevaluate your
career. This time is one of possibility, an opportunity for personal
and professional transformation. Take advantage of this time to
assess what you want to do and where you want to be.
Here are ten tips of how you can ease the emotions of your
transition and clarify your goals during this important phase of
your life:
This too shall pass. Reassure yourself that this situation is
only a phase, not a permanent state of affairs. Your feelings are
normal. Sooner or later your challenges will be addressed and you
will move out of this phase.
Take care of your basic needs. As in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs,
your physical and safety needs should take priority - that includes
food, sleep, exercise, relaxation, security, protection, comfort,
and peace. It sounds simple, but taking care of these needs has to
come first before you can even begin to understand your life
purpose. If necessary, take a part-time or temporary job just to buy
yourself some time to work out your next move.
Set a budget. Get clear on your short- and long-term financial
needs, take stock of your living expenses, and eliminate your debt.
If you are insecure about your finances, you may choose a new job
too quickly. Make sure your next career move is based on the merits
of position or opportunity, not on a sense of panic.
Organize yourself and your time. You have to make your job search
the top priority in your life - treat it like it is its own job.
Avoid distractions. You may even have to say "no" to some
activities, some family responsibilities or other things that take
up the time you need to focus on you.
Be ready when opportunity whispers. When you're stressed, it is
most difficult to remain open-minded and alert to opportunities. But
that's exactly what you need to do! Solutions are ready for your
discovery! It is a fact that 61% of executives in the United States
find their new job through networking, compared to those who respond
to advertisements (8%). Talk to people about your situation, read
every book and article you can, listen to radio and TV, surf the
Net, interview a company before they offer to interview you.
Get advice and support. For some reason, people in transition
tend to hide. There are lots of reasons for this: when the rug is
pulled out from under you it's hard to find your ground, and you
often lose confidence. Sometimes you get depressed, and the last
thing you want to do is talk to people about your situation. Remind
yourself continually that you're still a valuable person even if you
have lost your sense of direction for a time.
Invest time with career counselors, business coaches and
consultants. They will give you resources, advice and strategies.
Talk to Recruiters. Recruiters are a great resource for more than
just jobs. They know competitive salaries, hiring trends of the
industries they serve, what new job titles are being created and
which are becoming obsolete. The more recruiters you talk to, the
more current information you will have to help you make an informed
decision. Other perspectives are valuable because they are objective
and will assist you in making a decision you can be confident about.
Finally, but most important of all, let your partner, friends and
children know you need their support. Ask them for specific things
they can do to help you — taking care of dinner, allowing you time
at the computer, picking you up from class.
Get better educated. Take classes to assess or improve your
skills and interests. Take advantage of seminars or workshops
offered to assist your job search. There are many educational
resources out there that can increase your chances of being
successful.
Pay attention to your unconscious. We all have inner wisdom of
which we're not consciously aware. Dreams and daydreams often
provide clues to our future direction. Learn to read the language of
your unconscious embodied in your dreams. If you're a
spiritually-oriented person, this is a good time to spend some time
in prayer, inviting good into your life at both conscious and
unconscious levels.
Expect Success. What we believe is what we experience. If you
expect it will be impossible for you to get a new job this late in
your career, you will prove yourself right. On the other hand, if
you believe your skill set is invaluable, you will prove yourself
right. Believe in yourself and your ability to be successful. It is
unlikely you will take action if you think your efforts will be
wasted.
Be Patient. In our culture, people do not like waiting. But part
of the reason why we don't like it is because we don't know how to
do it. Most people think of waiting as a passive activity where
they're obliged to sit around and do nothing. You might think of
"Active Waiting" as that similar to what a butterfly does
in its chrysalis. It is waiting, growing, and preparing slowly for
its beautiful transformation. By taking care of yourself, noticing
others' needs, looking for opportunities, seeking support, having
fun, taking a day at a time, and paying attention to conscious and
unconscious signals you are experiencing your own wonderful
transformation! This phase can truely catapult you into a better,
more meaningful existence expressed through new career move!
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