by Aurelia Williams
"This is making me a headache!"
That lovely line above came out of my now 5yo's mouth when he
was frustrated over the daunting task of trying to learn how to
tie his shoes.
He blurted the sentence out then tossed the sneaker across the
I walked over to him and talked to him about his frustration
(Heck, getting those loops just right is hard work -- smile).
I explained to him that while it is OK to get angry and frustrated
that there are proper ways to do it.
Anger is a completely natural response to frustration. Let's
face it, life is filled with things that can become frustrating,
and most of those things are totally out of our control.
What we do control is how we deal with those issues. In this
message, I wanted to touch on positive ways that we can deal with,
express and release our anger and frustration in positive ways.
Think it out - When you begin to feel
angry -- sit down, relax and then try to think about how you can
solve the issue.
Talk it out - Talk to a friend, coach, counselor,
or a church member. Expressing your anger by talking to someone
about it is a great way to get the anger out.
Write it out - Keep a journal about your feelings.
It really helps to get your feeling out of our head and heart and
Let it out - Find a place that is secluded and
SCREAM!! Yes, let it out - you can scream into a pillow, punch a
pillow or stomp. Sometimes a good temper tantrum is in order.
Channel it out - Find some creative way to channel
your feelings. Listen to music, paint, turn on the music and dance!
There are many ways to creatively channel out anger.
Chill out - Try listening to calming music,
taking in slow deep breaths, meditating or doing yoga.
Work it out - Do something physical. Get out
and run, go to the gym or go for a brisk walk.
Please keep in mind that anger isn't always a bad emotion but
sometimes the way we deal with our anger is bad.
There are many times where anger can be good and is quite appropriate.
It can be a protection from allowing other people to manipulate
or dominate us.
It can also motivate us to take action when needed
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