Louise Morganti Kaelin
1. Identify and live by your values.
When we know what our values are, and our goals and actions are
in harmony with our values, we are seldom stressed or in conflict
about what we are doing.
2. Complete the Past
Sometimes we hang on to voices or perceived injustices from the
past, long after the person or situation is dead and gone. By bringing
closure to these events, we are free to move forward.
3. Plan for the Future.
It is important to know where we want to go and to have a rough
idea of how we plan to get there. While it is important to give
up final control to God or the Universe, we need a sense of focus
and direction to our lives. Planning for the future gives us that
sense of direction.
4. Live in the Present.
This is key. Once we have completed the past and planned for the
future, we need to stay focused in the here and now. There is very
little that we cannot handle in the moment. (A clue: if you are
feeling guilt, you are in the past. If you are feeling fear, you
are in the future. The absence of those feelings generally means
you are planted firmly in the present!) .
5. Understand that if you can dream it, you can achieve it.
If we are -- truly -- not capable of something, then it is practically
impossible for us to dream about it. Knowledge of what we are capable
of is in each and every cell of our being. So no matter how wild
and far-fetched your dream appears, the very existence of the dream
means that you can achieve it if you are willing to commit to it.
6. Allow others to live their own lives.
Allowing others to be themselves and to live their own lives is
the first step in being able to be yourself and living your own
life. If you have any 'shoulds' or expectations of others, let them
go. Shoulds kill relationships faster than any weapon I know of
and fill our lives with unnecessary stress.
7. Recognize God in everyone.
Everyone (literally, everyone!) is a reflection of God. Sometimes
we have to dig a little deep to see it as our perceptions, expectations
and fears cloud our vision. But when we can recognize how God is
mirrored in each person, our lives are calmer and freer!
8. Create reserves where you need them.
Stress is often created through lack, either right now or right
around the corner. Create reserves of time, space, money, love,
vitality and meaningful action, starting where you feel most stressed.
9. Focus on being and not doing or having.
When we are focused on who we are, what kind of person we are, we
tend to be on a journey of spiritual evolution, which in itself
tends to have less stress (or the stress is less stressful!). When
we are focused on doing or having, we are not focused on our higher
selves, but only on certain dimensions of who we are (and usually
on what we think that means). Be a being, not a doing!
10. Choose to be the best you possible.
Making a choice to be our best selves, to live life to our fullest
potential, typically allows us to transcend our lives and reduces
much stress because we understand that the source of stress is temporary.
Also, don't forget that today, you are the best you've ever been!
Revel in that fact.
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