How to Get Peace of Mind?
Whatever be the circumstances, invite peace into your life. Embrace it. Make it the very state of your mind and an integral part of your daily life.
Put peace in every word you speak and every expression you make, so that the peace that you send out into the world through your thoughts and intentions create similar vibrations elsewhere and make a difference to someone somewhere.
In the present day world, to remain peaceful and stable, while performing our daily tasks, is a great challenge. It is difficult not to be swayed by emotions, when we are deeply involved with life. If you are in conflict with yourself, striving and struggling to reach somewhere in your life, seeking attention, promoting your interests and chasing your goals, dominated by your egoistic thoughts of separation and isolation, you are bound to experience inner turmoil and live as if you are under a siege.
Fear, anger, guilt, envy, remorse, pride and greed are a few emotions that keep the mind churning and boiling without letting peace in.
Peace comes with awareness, acceptance, surrender, compassion, understanding, discipline, control, detachment, moderation, balance, virtue, healing, forgiveness, trust and faith. They are the prerequisites that bring peace into your life permanently and allow you to experience it under all circumstances.
If you are not ready for them it will be very difficult to silence your egoistic mind and bring peace into all aspects of your life.
Peace means freedom from emotional swings, experiencing inner calm, enjoying the present moment and remaining equal to the ups and downs in life.
We may occasionally experience peace when things are going well or when we are in a relaxed state of mind. But without preparation, it is difficult to remain in such a state all the time.
A truly peaceful person experiences peace all the time, as his natural condition, not temporarily, when the world is at rest.
Real peace means neither to be happy nor to be unhappy, but always calm and stable, independent of circumstances.
It is possible only when we gain control over our desires, choose peace over turmoil and accept life unconditionally.
It may be difficult to experience the peace of a great yogi or bring it permanently into our lives, without making necessary sacrifices. But with some effort we can develop emotional resilience and establish peace in our minds and bodies. The following suggestions are meant to achieve this objective.
1. LET GO OF THINGS
It is difficult to let go of things and people when you feel that you are wronged or victimized or subjected to unnecessary suffering.
You will find no value in seeking peace when your mind is filled with resentment and vindictiveness, against those who have wronged you, and it is really difficult to sleep well, when such destructive thoughts keep repeating in your mind and torment you with their heaviness.
We all can make choices, when life deals us its difficult cards. We can seethe with anger and frustration or learn to let go of those emotions to protect ourselves from their harmful effects and further consequences.
But how can we let go, when we are conditioned to react and resent? What logic can soothe our anger and bring comfort to our minds? Where is the justification to show the other cheek when we feel we are terribly slapped? How can we let go injustice, falsehood, deceit and meanness we find in others when it leaves such unpleasantness in us?
We cannot have peace, unless we accept responsibility for both our actions and reactions. While apparently our actions seem to be in our hands, in truth our reactions are also equally in our hands.
How I respond to others is a choice I make. I can choose to respond in a specific way or not respond at all. I can forgive others or choose to act vindictively. I can let go of them or continue to seethe with anger to the point it impairs my health and my imbalance. I can choose to carry the emotional baggage of my past or drop it and walk freely on the path of my life. I am endowed with the freedom and intelligence to make a choice at each step in my life.
Our happiness and inner peace depend upon how we represent and interpret our experiences. Some people have the ability to represent even the darkest of their experiences in a positive way that would let them absorb the shock and the commotion they create. For them a misfortune is a blessing. A person who makes them uncomfortable is a God sent gift to teach them virtues such as patience, forgiveness and compassion.
To experience peace we need to cultivate such an attitude. We have to learn to forgive ourselves and others, overcoming our prejudices and preferences and accepting everything as a learning opportunity or an opportunity to elevate and expand our consciousness.
2. HAVE FAITH IN YOURSELF AND IN GOD
If you are an atheist, you can ignore this suggestion and go to the next. But, if you believe in God, it is worthwhile to spend some time here. Faith in God can work miracles. With faith and confidence in yourself and God, you can deal with the problems and challenges of your life very successfully. With faith comes courage and confidence, with which you can remain steadfast amidst difficulties and follow your chosen goals with perseverance, courage and determination.
In times of difficulties, faith helps you to hold on to yourself and to your inner sense of self-worth. Faith takes you closer to your heart, opens up new possibilities and lets you channel your energies in a positive and constructive way.
When you believe in God and identify yourself with Him, you will live with the sense of assurance that you are not alone in your endeavors and that you have Him watching over you and guarding you every step of the way.
The best way to experience peace is to surrender to God and offer Him all your actions with a sense of sacrifice.
Accept Him as the real Doer in your life, relinquishing your egoistic attitude.
Perform your actions sincerely, letting God decide their outcome.
Offer your negative thoughts and emotions about others to God and seek His help to transform them.
Express your gratitude for everything that happens in your life.
3. CULTIVATE POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE
Positive thinking means focusing on the positive aspects of life, ignoring the negative, representing and interpreting your perceptions and experiences positively, with compassion and tolerance towards others, and faith and conviction in your ability to resolve problems and achieve your goals.
Positive thinking does not mean that you have to gloss over the facts and indulge in self-deception, but to accept the harsh realities of life without feeling oppressed by them, and deal with them appropriately, with faith and confidence in yourself.
You will not suppress the negative emotions, but rather learn from them and tolerate them as a part of your self-transformation.
Positive thinking is possibility thinking. There is a definite correlation between positive thinking and achievement. It also contributes to good health and thereby to inner peace and happiness.
Positive thinking gives you the fortitude to take risks, cope with failure, control your self-limiting thoughts, establish enduring relationships, and feel good about yourself and your achievements.
In a positive state of mind you are aware of your problems and at the same time hopeful of their solutions. You have a greater ability to control your thoughts and manage your reactions, expressing gratitude for the opportunities presented to you to realize your dreams and enjoy your life. In a difficult situation, what keeps you from cracking up from inside is your positive mental attitude. What helps you endure an ordeal is your positive thinking. What distinguishes a winner from a failure is positive thinking.
People fail or succeed in reaching their goals to the extent they keep their hopes and aspirations alive, by countering their negative thoughts with their positive thinking. You can remain peaceful and stable, in a given situation, independent of circumstances and pressures of life, if you develop a world view which cannot be shaken easily by negative thoughts and emotions.
If you have faith in yourself, in God and in the good you find in others and if you have faith in good values and the value of human life, you will deal with your negative thoughts and emotions positively and create conditions that bring peace and harmony into your life.
Overcome your negative and oppressive emotions with positive mental attitude, not by ignoring them, but by paying attention to them and listening to their underlying messages to take appropriate action. Make a strong resolution to remain positive despite the challenges.
Dispute your negative thoughts and recurring doubts with facts and reason. Focus on the positive aspects of your life and things you like. Use words that are positive, when you talk to people, appreciate them or interpret your own experiences. See the benefits, the opportunities and possibilities in various situations, problems and challenges you face in your life.
Suppress the impulse to criticize or speak negatively about others. Dispute the inner chatter that is harsh and self-deprecating. Use visualization to counter your negativity. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Avoid people who are negative.
Go against your negative thoughts, by doing their opposite. Find time to relax and energize yourself, by expressing gratitude and appreciation for everything that happens in your life. Invite peace into your life, sending out good thoughts and wishing the welfare of one and all.
Source: Reproduced partially from the article, "Becoming Aware of Yourself" from the book Think Success by Jayaram V. You may purchase this book from our online store
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