Setting Your Priorities in Life
Life is complex. There are many aspects of your life which require your time and attention. With the limited time and resources available to us, it would be impossible to pay attention to everything that goes on in our lives. It would be wiser and effective, if you focus on certain areas of your life and work on them to improve the chances of your success and maintain the momentum of your life. Following are the key areas of your life, where you need to focus your energies to achieve balance, harmony and success in your life.
- The Wider World
- Your Finances
- Your Thoughts
- Spiritual Life
Your health is the door to stretching your limits and finding maximum satisfaction, success and fulfillment in your life. To be healthy means to be strong not only physically, but also mentally and spiritually. Good health is a combination of genetic, personal and environmental factors. It is sustained by discipline, positive thinking, healthy habits and self-control. If you are in good health, you have an added advantage in working towards your goals with focus, perseverance, extra energy and enthusiasm. It will save you money, energy and peace of mind at the same time.
Many people neglect their health in pursuit of success. You should not be one of them. Health becomes more important as you age and grow older and as your body gradually loses its ability to rebuild and regenerate. Be a health conscious person and keep good track of what has been going on in your mind and body.
Career is what you do, out of interest or for your livelihood and survival. It may be a job, some business or professional activity or an artistic interest, which you may pursue. In the life of an adult, it is probably the most dominant activity, consuming one‘s maximum time, energy and resources.
Your identity, self-esteem, financial wellbeing, level of satisfaction, relationships and status in society depend upon your career. You are rich or poor, a winner or a loser, successful or unsuccessful, and happy or unhappy, depending upon which career you choose and how seriously you pursue it.
Most of us spend the prime of our lives in pursuit of success and happiness through our careers. Some people over do it, ignoring the other areas in their lives and pay dearly for it in the end. Know that you can go only so far with your career. It may build your success, but not your relationships or your inner happiness. The workplace is one of the worst places to look for relationships. There only a few people rejoice at your success. Most of them have no time to think of others.
Pay attention to your career goals. Consider its importance and value in your life. Think of the ways and means to promote your career and achieve excellence in the area of your specialization, without ignoring your needs for belongingness and self-actualization.
Studies about our early development show that in the first few months, after we are born, we show interest, respond and attract the attention of not only our parents but all those whom we happen to see frequently. Having more people around them and responding to them make the babies feel more assured and comfortable. Babies, who are deprived of frequent touch and attention in the first few months of their lives, develop emotional problems at a later stage. This is true not only in case of humans, but several animal species also.
Family plays a crucial role in our lives. We like to live in association with others, as a part of our survival instinct, to fee assured, loved and cared for. Family provides with such an opportunity. It is the basic social unit, where we actually begin to experiment with our social skills and learn the dynamics of dominance, manipulation, love, affection, intimacy, individuality, social equations, conformity, belongingness, control and submission.
Family is also our ultimate sanctuary. We may go out and achieve enormous success. We may win the hearts and minds of many people in society. But ultimately, when we are deeply hurt, feel rejected, defeated or depressed, it is our families, to which we turn for advice, solace, comfort and protection.
To be a part of one‘s family is a valuable experience. It is where we have the opportunity to learn as well practice the true values of sharing and loving, of selflessness and true caring for others.
Your family generally consists of you, your spouse and your children. If you love pets, you may consider them a part of your family. Besides them, you may have an extended family, consisting of your brothers, sisters, parents and others. Whether you would like to include them as a part of your family or not, depends upon your personal circumstances and your relationship with them.
Whatever may be the nature of your family, it is important that you value your family members and make them part of your success. Many people tend to ignore their family members, as they become successful and busy with their daily routine. To be totally preoccupied with your personal success, at the cost of your relationships, is a sign of selfishness and self-centeredness. It will ultimately lead to misunderstandings, broken relationships, misery and loneliness.
Make your family members the prime beneficiaries and partners in your success. Let them share your wealth, happiness, love and attention. Spend quality time with them and make them feel part of your life. Value their opinions. Be honest with them in your dealings. At the same time give them space, recognizing their right to privacy and individuality and treating them with respect and compassion, as you would like to be treated. If you follow these simple rules, they will keep you and your family happy and your relationship with them in perfect balance.
Money may not make everyone happy, but it is essential for our wellbeing. For many, in fact, success means having lots of money. The world is ambivalent towards wealth. Money is scorned in spiritual circles, but venerated by the public. Many believe that poverty is a virtue and wealth is a trap. Yet, we all know in our hearts that money brings many comforts and that without money our lives are incomplete and miserable.
The same attitude is often reflected in our lives. If you harbor any deep reservations about money or wealthy people, very likely you will not be manifesting much wealth in your life. If you are serious about attracting wealth and experiencing the blessings of abundance, you should examine your self-limiting thoughts about money and develop a proper attitude towards it. You should feel positive about money and the good it can do to you and others. Most importantly, you should believe that you deserve wealth and you are qualified for it. If you are a spiritual person, you need to know that it is very essential that wealth stays in the hands of good people.
Secondly, know how to increase your income. Income is what you earn by virtue of your knowledge, experience or skills. Your income will be in proportion to these three and you can increase it by increasing your value through them. If you have good education, expertise in some specific areas or mastery of a subject, you will have greater opportunities to make more income. If you are interested in creating wealth, you should know what you are good at and use it as the means to improve your earning capacity.
Thirdly, increase your wealth. Wealth is what you create out of your income, through savings and wise investments, without foregoing the basic comforts of life and without living beyond means. A high income does not necessarily lead to creation of wealth. What contributes to wealth is proper strategy and attitude towards income, expenditure and savings.
Organize your finances carefully and wisely, so that when you become old and when you retire from active service, you will not be at the mercy of others or some government bureaucrat. With a few simple financial rules you can manage your wealth and stay financially independent. If you save more during the first half of your life, you have greater chances of spending the later years of your life more peacefully. If you earn more than you spend or if you spend less than what you earn, you will be able to save money and increase your wealth. Confusing, yes it is. But read these lines carefully once again and it makes sense why not everyone in the high income bracket is wealthy.
To enrich your finances and increase your wealth, follow these simple, commonsense rules. Practice the art of saving, knowing difference between creating wealth and earning income. Know how you can increase the value of what you earn, by saving and controlling your expenditure. Develop a proper attitude and a good strategy to increase your income and accumulate wealth, overcoming your self-limiting thoughts about it. Invest wisely without being greedy. Share your wealth with others to increase your own happiness and that of your near and dear.
Source: Reproduced partially from the article, "Becoming Aware of Yourself" from the book Think Success by Jayaram V. You may purchase this book from our online store
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- Positive Self-Esteem
- Coping With Fear and Anxiety
- The Experience of Happiness
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